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photoblog image In Honor of Moms Everywhere

In Honor of Moms Everywhere

Not to gross you out by my 61-year-old right hand, but....stay with me on this one.  This is about that thin wedding band on the inside of the larger ring (another story altogether).  [BTW, have you ever tried to take a pic with your left hand only?!!]

My mother, who was an only child, had 8 kids, 4 boys and 4 girls.  I was her 3rd child and 2nd girl.  (For those of you who know my sister, Ruth, she was the 8th child and the 4th girl.)  When Mom died of Alzheimer's in 1997 (at age 80), we 4 girls decided to keep her wedding band and wear it.  Each of us wears it for a year and then passes it on.  This year, from July 4th to July 4th (when we have the family reunion in Michigan), it's my turn.

Ironically, we 4 girls have one daughter each.  So when we 4 die, this ring will conceivably pass on to them, the next generation.  Then it will be Grandmother's Day!

We do this, Mom, in remembrance of you!  Thank you.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!
(for those who celebrate it today)

[Today I'm in Atlanta but fly to Amsterdam tomorrow.]


In Honor of Moms Everywhere

Not to gross you out by my 61-year-old right hand, but....stay with me on this one.  This is about that thin wedding band on the inside of the larger ring (another story altogether).  [BTW, have you ever tried to take a pic with your left hand only?!!]

My mother, who was an only child, had 8 kids, 4 boys and 4 girls.  I was her 3rd child and 2nd girl.  (For those of you who know my sister, Ruth, she was the 8th child and the 4th girl.)  When Mom died of Alzheimer's in 1997 (at age 80), we 4 girls decided to keep her wedding band and wear it.  Each of us wears it for a year and then passes it on.  This year, from July 4th to July 4th (when we have the family reunion in Michigan), it's my turn.

Ironically, we 4 girls have one daughter each.  So when we 4 die, this ring will conceivably pass on to them, the next generation.  Then it will be Grandmother's Day!

We do this, Mom, in remembrance of you!  Thank you.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!
(for those who celebrate it today)

[Today I'm in Atlanta but fly to Amsterdam tomorrow.]


comments (25)

  • Deb
  • United States
  • 13 May 2007, 00:11
Ginnie, what a wonderful and loving tradition of sharing your mother's ring. Happy Mother's Day to you, too, and have a safe flight to Amsterdam!
Ginnie Hart: A hundred times Thank You, Deb!
Ginnie i hope to meet you one day. I know u r special. Have the best mothers day ever.
Ginnie Hart: I'm guessing we WILL meet one day, Busola, because we wish it. I find that being intentional makes things happen. Like magic. smile
Very nice tribute Ginnie - Have a nice week !!
Ginnie Hart: You, too, Zeb. smile
Happy Mothers Day to you!
Ginnie Hart: Thanks, Etomi. To you as well. smile
  • Petra
  • 13 May 2007, 07:04
Great words Ginnie..i also have this ring...belonged to my grandmother..my mother...and now its mine...
Its special..
Safe flight to Amsterdam...see you next sunday.smile
Petra
Ginnie Hart: These rings are so symbolic, aren't they, Petra. You know.

And yes, a week from today, rain or shine. smile
  • Judy
  • 13 May 2007, 08:43
Ginnie - Love this photo AND the meaning behind it. It's amazing that it fits each of you. How special and what a special tribute. I love that little design on the edge - truly an amazing pic. Happy Mother's Day to you! Wish we could celebrate together.
Ginnie Hart: The ring would slide off my finger if it weren't for the larger one holding it in place, Judy. But it does fit perfectly this way.

We will celebrate this day together in our hearts. You have birthed the most magnificent man ever for my daughter. Just think--this was orchestrated before the beginning of time!
A very special thing, thanks for sharing and a happy mother's day to u too!smile
Ginnie Hart: You are such a sweetheart, Ade. Thank you.
Happy Mother's Day Ginnie!
Ginnie Hart: Thank you kindly, Bridge!
  • Ellie
  • 13 May 2007, 13:34
Very tender thoughts behind this picture Ginnie, it's a wonderful tradition and a simple one to pass down the generations.

It's a very evocative picture too, more especially with the explanation.

Safe journey to Amsterdam. If the weather there is similar to here you'll need a supply of waterproofs.
Ginnie Hart: Thank you, dear Ellie. Even though this isn't your Mother's Day there, I still wish YOU a happy day! You also are the mother of a boy and a girl (million dollar family, as we say here).

I pulled up the weather forecast last evening for A'dam these next days and though the rain stops in a day or two, the temps will barely reach 70 F. It totally changes what I was planning to pack! (Atlanta is sweltering these days--in the 80s.) Thanks for your journey wishes, as always.
  • Ruth
  • Michigan, USA
  • 13 May 2007, 13:58
This is a beautiful photo of your hand, and I love this tradition we have. smile
Ginnie Hart: It seems to become more beautiful every fourth year, Ruth, when it comes back to my turn! I wear the ring with great pride and joy!

If it weren't for what this ring symbolizes (Mom's marriage to Dad), neither of us would be here today. smile
That's a beautiful tradition,and there's nothing wrong with the way your hand looks!
Ginnie Hart: You're just saying that 'cuz it's true, Josie. grin (HA! I had a friend who always said that whenever she received a compliment.)

I hope YOU have a great Mother's Day!
Happy Mother's Day to you!
Ginnie Hart: HA! Ditto, again! smile (This means we're that close in time on SC!!!!)
  • mal
  • 13 May 2007, 19:06
A wonderful treasure to passed on Ginnie, that is a timeless ring! and everytime that you look at it I'm sure that you see a constant in your life! Lovely image and thoughts Ginnie. mal
Ginnie Hart: You are so right, Mal. That ring does have a sense of an "eternalized moment" that is like bedrock. Thanks for helping me see it that way. Your words are very meaningful.
I love that story
Ginnie Hart: Thank you, Aksel, for saying that!
What a special, special way to remember your mother and that it's shared with all your sisters. When I think of the pride the next generation will feel when it's their turn it chokes me up on the day that's hardest for me to get through. I had only one weepy spell this year so it's getting better. Happy Mother's Day.
Ginnie Hart: It does get better, Mary! It's been 10 years now and, yes, Time is a healer. There are other days, totally out of the blue, when tears come to my eyes. But I wouldn't want it any other way. Neither would she, I 'spect.
smile A very happy Mothers Day to you Ginnie smile
Ginnie Hart: I had a great one, two days in a row, Chris. smile
Oh Ginnie that is such a wonderful thing to have a family so together and in harmony with each other.
Ginnie Hart: I think this is a function of age, PP. smile Life is too short to be otherwise!
  • Jimbo
  • Dublin, Ireland
  • 14 May 2007, 12:31
An inspirational story, a lovely thought for the day, and a beautiful, striking photo.
Ginnie Hart: Thanks a million, Jimbo!
Es una emotiva historia para mantener vivo el recuerdo de las madres. Felicidades también !

It is a touching history to maintain the memory of the mothers alive. Congratulations also!
Ginnie Hart: Yes, Jose. And thanks!
Your mom would be so proud of her girls! And love that her memory and bond w/ your father is carried on with each of you through the years. Thanks for sharing your heartwarming story.
Ginnie Hart: That's one thing I forgot to say, Mad, that the ring obviously also says something about my dad! I know you understand all of this! Thanks.
A beautiful tradition.
Ginnie Hart: Thanks, Red Pen.
I almost blubbed when I read this. Oh Ginn, you seem to have such a wonderful life. It sounds like your life is packed full of delightful little bits and bobs, such as this. Heart-warming, and reassuringly humanistic. You have a lovely hand.
Ginnie Hart: Now you've made me "blub," Andrew. Thank you so much. Yes, I truly have a lot to be thankful for.
Very sweet story, and a super picture.
Ginnie Hart: Thank you kindly, dear David.
  • Julischka
  • the centre of EU
  • 18 May 2007, 17:26
What a wonderful tradition. [sigh] smile
Ginnie Hart: I know, Julia. The 4 brothers could have done the same thing with dad's ring (he died 2 years before Mom) but no one thought of it and I'm not sure they would have. We sisters didn't think of it either. Maybe we'd be wearing 2 rings, though that one would have needed to be worn on a necklace. smile
  • Patrushka
  • 20 May 2007, 04:32
I do like your comments about your mom's ring, but I have to comment on YOUR ring! My husband and I have very similar wedding rings, and I've never seen anyone else wearing one! We had them made by a street artist in Berkeley, CA in 1969...we didn't have much money to spend on our wedding or the rings, but both turned our beautifully! The rings have survived through joyful and tough times. Both of us had to have them cut off following unusual situations, but they were repaired nicely, and should be good for many more years! I hope yours has has also held up well and has stories woven into it too.
Ginnie Hart: First of all, Patrushka, thank for backtracking and commenting on THIS post!

My ex-husband and I were also married in 1969!). After we divorced in 1990 (just after 21 years of a good marriage but realizing that my being gay wasn't "fair" to either of us any more!), I had my wide-band wedding ring and the ring of a "lost" gay relationship created into the above ring by a Jewish lady who makes exquisite jewelry. In Hebrew, the ring says "I will never leave thee or forsake thee," one of my favorite verses from the book of Esther in the OT.

I always wear it on my right hand!

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